with love, abby

It’s no secret that safety and security play a big part in the people that you choose to date, but at some point are we just dating the same men over and over again?

They say that you accept the love that you think you deserve, but how many crappy men can you date before you realize how much better you are and how much better you deserve? For me it took one, which makes sense why I have been single for quite some time now, but after that one crappy guy I asked myself one question: Am I going to keep dating guys I know don’t deserve me and I know that I can get over easily? Or wait for the love that I fear but crave?

I ended up going with the second choice, because why would I give someone something that they don’t deserve? I saw online recently a point of view that really changed they way I thought about things. It essentially asked the question; “Your husband is the only family member that you get to choose, so why pick a loser?”. I’ve been thinking about this statement for about a week now and it really reminded me; why would I pick a loser? If you are still choosing to date the same guy that treats you fine and that you like most of the time, break up with him. If you keep dating crappy guys just to say the line “this is my boyfriend”, stop. Stop dating guys that you know are going to end the same as the last guy you dated, date the guy who it kinda scares you to be in a relationship with, because nothing changes if nothing changes, and next thing you know you’ll be 62 and going on a first date. All in all, stop dating the same type of men just for a sense of safety, because if you do you’ll never find the man that was made to love you.